Originally I wanted to go to the "ABC of feelings and thoughts " a cognitive way identify and exploit
en, the ABC mechanism assertive attitude. I thank the reader comment (whether it be with, GfK go on '"), who inspired me to this intermediate step. Whether dealing with negative thoughts or cognitive "Compassionate Communication ( GfK )" - both based on the ABC mechanism, and both beneficial unconditionally accept themselves . you might ask yourself: Why is self-love in the relationship so important? I would like to stay, for example, "only" cool when someone attacks me. question: Why does it feel at all attacked verbally? Why does it take one? The words "meet" and "attack" already imply that there might be "slightly injured". This "something" is the personality, the ego. Comparing the ego with a castle, a stone's throw of the harm anything. However, the castle is in ruins from the past, it is threatening.
paradox: to provide instead for the reconstruction of the castle, we bomb them even further from the inside by the negative beliefs that were formed largely in childhood. In seminars, I discover time and again: resulted from negative beliefs border sabotaging thought en know most people (eg "You can do it anyway! Did I still like gesag
t that ... Look at you, what you look like"). Or it's like a .. permanent background noise so normal that they can not be taken again I ask: stop, self-sabotage by internal resistance in the ranks costs unnecessary energy and hinders you - in all, makes sense. Answer - instead of however, there ! Numerous approaches and guide it on " learn to love yourself." What fits for you depends on your attitude and previous knowledge from. Before I give you - in my view - three the most effective and introduce combinable approaches, nor the recommendation to bring in great self-denial for the first time psychological support.
Approach 1: recognizing one's own goodness ,
to be good through and through. Do you know the saying: "In principle, nothing is bad, but thinking makes it so"? We are born as "innocent" nature and learn from parents, church, school, society, advertising is not with us is ok or still could be better. Instilled an illusion! Unconditionally loving to be - those who understand the truth in his heart, has taken the first step. Moreover, opens his castle: for a peaceful, benevolent, and empathic interaction. Exactly where GfK .
Approach 2: Meditation In meditation
learn patterns of thought and feeling better. It can also deepen very well the findings of approach 1. Those who meditate according to Buddhist practice, knows the form of "loving kindness" - and Metta meditation and the concept of "compassion" - a favor for yourself and others. If you want to meditate and do not know where, I recommend the meditation centers in Munich, Stuttgart, Berlin
Approach 3: EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique
Since acupuncture with us already enjoys a great reputation, I am almost certain that you are with the energy blockages resolution knock-acupressure can also make friends. If EFT is to be beneficial in terms of self-love, match sentences begin with "Even though I feel the negative and do / I accept myself the way I am." EFT is such an effective method, d
as soon I'll write another article to do so. In the meantime you recommend this B uch: tapping acupressure - fast self-help with EFT and the YouTube videos of "MagicButtonsDe", a young man who speaks to me with his philosophy from the heart. And now invite I am an EFT to try out: Video: learn self ligating be-EFT . Finally, I am very thoughtful: We are looking for ways adults with difficulty to the injuries of childhood are going. Our generation has no choice. But today's children could be spared, would if they are taught from the beginning that they are unconditionally lovable ...
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